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The roots to have a successful intercultural marriage.

THE MUST IMPORTANT STEPS TO HAVING A SUCCESSFUL INTERCULTURAL MARRIAGE.

Marriage itself is complicated, so imagine how complicate it can be marrying somebody from another country who has different manners and sometimes a different language. Just the language itself is already a challenge, and with that comes the culture. Today, I want to tell you the things I believe are the most important to keep the peace in the marriage.

– Travel to your spouse’s country: When we marry somebody from another country, it is hard  to know what is cultural and what are habits that belong to the person. If we are surrounded by that person’s culture, we can start to understand better where they are coming from.

– Respect your differences: Because we respect something that at times is hard to understand, that does not mean we are accepting it. It just means we respect it’s different from what we have known all our lives. If both parties of the marriage try to impose their culture onto other, the marriage can turn into a constant attack.

– Negotiate: I know that even in a marriage within the same culture this is an important step; however, you have to add a triple dose of this step to an intercultural marriage. For example, maybe you do not want to eat out all the time because you prefer to cook or vice versa, or you want your kids to speak your native language. Analyze the importance of the two and choose the one that matters the most to you and you can not live without. Things can not go only one way in a healthy marriage. The point is for both of you to feel comfortable in the marriage, so it needs the effort and sacrifice of both in order to make it function.

-Communicate before making conclusions: Sometimes we make assumptions before talking to the other person. We sometimes take things personal, but they don’t have to be. Try to think of all the times you offended somebody without meaning to. Or that time when one of your friends stopped talking to you, leaving you wondering, “What happened?” Well, don’t be that spouse who condemns the other for actions they committed that they do not even realize were offensive.

Finally, always remember that relationships are complicated in general, but if we are all invested in making them work they should be easier and fun. Sometimes being so different is what makes your marriage or relationship unique and fun at times. Embrace those differences and respect one another.

 

Much love

 

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The three most important steps to raising a bilingual child

Weather it is because we want to help our kids have a better chance of succeeding in this “global world,” or we want them to communicate with their entire family and connect to their roots, for some of us is very important that our kids speak two or more languages. Of course it is not an easy task when one of the languages is foreign (not the official language of the country you live in); however, it is one of the most precious gifts you can award to your children. Today I want to share with you ten steps I believe are important to make sure we succeed as parents in this long journey.

  • Decide and stick: Be aware that some people might question this decision, arguing that it can confuse your child, or that you are in such or such country so you are obligated to teach your kids the official language and so and so on.  Usually, the people who question the benefits of bilingualism are those who only speak one language. Stick to your decision, knowing that there is much research that shows a lot of benefits on being bilingual and no harm what so ever in raising your child in a home that has more than one language. Remember that this is your child and you are doing what you believe is best for them.

 

  • Establish who will speak which language: Remember that babies and kids at an early each relate language with people. They do not know what is what at the beginning; they just know they can understand it. If both you and your spouse speak the foreign language, speak that one to your kids. They will learn the official language when they go to school. However, if both of you speak the official language and one of you the foreign, then each should stick to one language at all times — I mean all the time, no exception.

 

  • Use different resources: Not only talk to your child in the language but also read and sing to them in it. This is very important because it will help vary the vocabulary and grammar. If you have friends or relatives who speak the foreign language, invite them over. Also you can read different research about it. Sometimes I do feel like they can encourage or discourage you at times.